Are you the 'strong' one in your life? Do you put others before yourself? Relationship expert Iyanla Vanzant says it's not necessarily a good thing to put yourself last. In this clip from an episode of 'Oprah's Lifeclass,' Iyanla says it's not selfish to put yourself first -- it's self-full.'You are the representation of God in your life,' Iyanla says. 'And you put you last and put other people ahead of you. Which means you're putting other things and other people ahead of God in your life.'