FOMO and YOLO Talk with Confused Girl
Our society has been built around an idea that we have to be doing something at all times. We either have to be doing something productive or be meeting social obligations. We have to abide by the rules of society. God forbid we might be one of the sheep that isn’t following the societal flock.
Earlier this week, I just didn’t feel like doing much. I have been very productive the past two months and my mind and body were craving some quiet time. I decided to do nothing for a couple of days and just rest. This was almost impossible for me to do because I started to feel incredibly guilty about resting. I compared myself to other people who probably weren’t resting, I thought about all the things I should be doing and then I tried to make myself feel better by going over all the things I have accomplished. I was like, “Giovanna shut up and just chill!” I had to make myself shut up. The truth is, we don’t have to be productive all the time. If you are constantly going, you are bound to look like a chicken with its head cut off. Sometimes you need to step back and rest your mind in order to come back with a greater sense of clarity and direction.
This freaking “Fear Of Missing Out” is a complete illusion. If you want to stay home and miss a party, stay home. If you weren’t there, there was probably a reason for it. The reality is you probably missed out on a DUI or a hangover. So consider yourself lucky! Do what you want! Be completely free! When you are completely free doing what you want, that is when the magic happens. For example, if anyone in history could have had an extreme case of FOMO, it would be Emily Dickinson. She was an agoraphobe who almost never left her house. However, she probably didn’t have a “fear of missing out” and millions of people read her descriptions of incredible experiences.
YOLO (You only live once) the way you want to not the way you think you should because society tells you. Maybe if we YOLO authentically we can start to avoid the FOMO moments in life.